Live In relationship
Live-in relationship, pre-marital sex not an offence:
In an observation that will cheer votaries of pre-marital sex and live-in-partners, the Supreme Court on Tuesday opined that a man and woman living together without marriage cannot be construed as an offence. "When two adult people want to live together what is the offence. Does it amount to an offence? Living together is not an offence. It cannot be an offence," a three judge bench of Chief Justice K G Balakrishnan, Deepak Verma and B S Chauhan observed.
MORE IMPORTANTLY A woman in a live-in relationship should be entitled to maintenance if she is deserted by her man, the National Commission for Women has said. In far-reaching recommendations to the ministry of women and child development, the commission has sought a change in the definition of "wife" as described in Section 125 of CrPC, which deals with maintenance and suggested that it include women involved in a live-in relationships.
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@DvD -See in a live-in relationship there are no major hassels in breaking up & the two persons involved have no compunctions in trying for it with new partners ,also there is no legal,moral or social censure about such behavior ,because it was just a mutual agreement between two persons ; therefore they prefer to go for new partners rather than trying their utmost to make the relationship work.
On the other hand in a marriage ,even if the initial few years are stressful,the couple try not to break up & slowly an adjustment is arrived at.
I don't like to contradict you but this is an important issue & i thought it best to put forward my views.Hope you don't mind.
@@@DVD But divorces are much less than such breakups today,& believe me at least one of the two(the one who was ditched )suffers a lot in a breakup....;as these cases multiply there will be additional problems of unwanted pregancies,single parents ,& kids longing for the separated parent.
So many yougsters ask for my help because of these breakups& they are on the verge of suicide more often than not.
I m not sure , why it will happen !!! But I support The court in this issue.
When two individuals begin to live together there are bound to be differences & abrasions....in a marriage they try to adjust & carry on...a perfect matching of souls is not possible but they do attain a workable solution.
But in a live-in relationship there is lesser urge to make a go of it,so they part & try again ...this could be construed as a fall in divorce rates but don't the partners suffer pain after a breakup ?...they may go on trying to jell with various partners but ultimately there can be no success without adaptation...thus live ins may decrease divorce rates but that is only a statistic;in actuality there is more of frustration , bitterness & depression.
I guess this frustration will be much less than the stupid divorce procudures frustration !
this fad is being used by teenagers who are just 19 or 18 years old. and boys are even into two relationships simultaneously and their studies are going for a ride.
desire, it is a mature thing to be entered into by mature people. when teens without knowing repurcussions and should be studying, without parents knowledge, enter into these things should be termed a hienous crime, not a fad. you are right.
come on you are taking it all wrong .I guess its the best thing grown up societies can have.
i am not only talking about teens ,anyone at any age can get into live in relas.
come on !!
Such live-in relationship turns children into rebels, ultimately they forget their parents......it can cause break up of family relationship and lead to lot of stress. I agree with Pramod.
Now you have been Talking lot of hypothetical things here , There is a strong need to think about why this thing exists.
This exists because it is giving something to the society more importantly the court has said
A woman in a live-in relationship should be entitled to maintenance if she is deserted by her man, the National Commission for Women has said. In far-reaching recommendations to the ministry of women and child development, the commission has sought a change in the definition of "wife" as described in Section 125 of CrPC, which deals with maintenance and suggested that it include women involved in a live-in relationships.
desire , have you heard of live in relationship categorized by teens as, one for emotional, one for physical, one for money, and running them on simultaneously. Indian culture is not ripe at this stage to tolerate these things. no girl is also that mod like western countries to let go a relationship easily without mental turmoils , upto the extent of suicides.
Live in relationship generally ends in parting, if it is considered temporary arrangement. Very rarely Live in ends in tying the knot or marriage. Under this circumstance it is better to have an unwritten code of conduct girls family should be kept in the loop, boys employer should be informed vide updation of cv, which contains the maritial status, which will indicate Live in. This will ensure that boy and girl enter into arrangement by making their status known.
Come one Umesh I guess you are generalizing it too much !!There is nothing Like that !
I guess its need of the Time !!!
I hope the pros and cons are dicussed in a realty serial Satyameva Jayte, so that we will have real life experiences :) The first episode was a wake up call for us all, wherein abortion is an issue particularly of a female kid, but here sex of the kid would not matter.
Basically, I believe in the institution of marriage strongly. Anything that strengthens it is good and anything that weakens it is bad.
absolutely murali and I guess there is no harm in having a live in relationship
One good thing about live in relationship is that population control would be ensured Maintainence would definitely come into the picture if the women conceives. It is legitimate demand by womens forum.
All live in relationship should be registered in the marriage bureau for records sake and should have parental consent particularly from the girls side.
If they register it, it becomes a registered marriage, right? Maybe what we need is to revise the marriage laws to ensure the couple have option to sign a contract on divorce rights over property and children and the option of either partner to call off marriage without going to court. But then again people will sentimentally not like to do something like this at the beginning of a relationship.
Live in might prevent population control when basket is about to get filled but here the basket has overflown ages ago !!
All live in relationship should be registered i----NOT POSSIBLE !!! IN INDIA ATLEAST !!
@umesh, if the male has to pay maintenance then then what is the difference between marriage and live-in? live-in is a casual arrangement, you cannot put extra burden on one party when the decision was mutual.
Registring the live in relation ships i guess would be a joke , No Offense Meant !
I don't think there's a need to discuss Live-in Relationships. It's a matter of personal choice, and we don't have to justify our personal choices to others.
What I would really like to discuss is the stand of National Commission for women on this topic. They really want the deserted woman in a live-in relationship to claim maintenance? Are they kidding me?
There are 2 major reasons why I am opposed to the idea of maintenance-
1. Why do you think people go into a live-in relationship? It's because they don't want a legal commitment. A marriage is recognized legally and it's difficult to get out of the arrangement if they have to. People also go for live-ins because they want to test their compatibility before actually tying the knot. So if the woman is entitled to a maintenance, the very purpose of going into live-in is defeated.
The option to quit is available to both the partners and this is a big reason why people are attracted toward this concept. So why only males have to bear the burden of maintenance?
2. What type of woman do you think embraces the concept of live-in relationship? One who is mentally strong, confident, economically empowered, and doesn't cares what people are going to say. Do you think she's really entitled for a maintenance, when she can maintain herself very well?
I am glad that supreme court has ruled it's not a crime, but now what we really need is a set of guidelines as to what will happen in case of separation? If the couple has purchased assets jointly, how they are going to be distributed? If they have a child, what will happen to him? Who will take care of the minor's expenses? How they are going to pay taxes, jointly or severally? If one partner dies, who will be entitled to his share of assets? These are just some of the questions which need to be answered, to ensure that either partner is not harassed.
I support women empowerment, but please, no maintenance in live-ins. Let's not make it another tool in the hands of shrewd woman to harass their partners.
it's mutual harassments, men too do it,
I fully agree. Adding to this, giving maintenance, property rights for live in relationships is a mockery. Marraiage is just a legal registration of a relationship that makes it easy to claim these. How can the same rights be conferred on an un-registered relationship. It will be leaglly very complicated to define a live-in relationship. Would a one night stand qualify as a live in. Would just sharing a flat with a member of opposite gender qualify as a live in relationship? And if gay relationships are also recognized, would sharing flat with member of same gender became a gay live in?
I agree seriously that men too do it.
Yes, That was my point ,.no maintenance in live-ins..i guess Its our resposibilty but not liability i guess I am not too harsh
"What culture ? Please try knowing it before passing taking up the flag of Indian culture on every similar sitiuation. Presently, what passes on for Indian culture is the worst mixture of Vitcorian prudishness and Islamic rigidity." (via Jaidev Jamwal)
Excellently said. We have to learn to honor Individual freedom in this country.
I guess youa re right !!!! So couples going for A. would probably have lower divorce rates. !!!
In a perfect world, there would be no divorces, everyone would be happy with their partners. This may sound absurd to many, but there has to be a healthy rate of divorce in a well functioning society.
India enjoys one of the lowest divorce rates in the world, and it might not be a thing to cheer about. An unhappy marriage leads to household violence, suicides and affects health of the people involved adversely. In situations like these, divorce is a far better option.
Sure, divorce might result into few painful weeks, but that would stilll be better than a lifetime of sufferings.
So, coming to the topic, there are two ways to see Live in relationships:
A. As a prelude to marriage. (In geek lingo, a Beta-run)
B. As an alternative to marriage.
So couples going for A. would probably have lower divorce rates. And couples opting B. might have a higher but, in my opinion, healthy (live in-) divorce rate.
I don't understand how your example supports your assertion of increase in divorces.
If a guy can surretptiously marry without informing the live in partner than it would increase break up and family tension. No normal female would accept his earlier live-in status. She would rather go for divorce.
What culture ? Please try knowing it before passing taking up the flag of Indian culture on every similar sitiuation. Presently, what passes on for Indian culture is the worst mixture of Vitcorian prudishness and Islamic rigidity.
By the way, I agree with Pooja P about her views egarding divorce. But women asking for maintenance after breakup (even of her own initiation) will sure cause a lot of unwarranted trouble. Present marital laws are being abused to hilt as they are already.
i may repeat
The live in will certainly avoid high percentage of divorces !!
According to me live-in will increase the degree of divorces or break ups
One example is that of a guy who enjoyed live in, wanted to silently marry community girl, suddenly the live in female came to know about it and called the would be bride, and they called off the marriage and thanked their stars
I guess the example holds good in case of ONS as well ,If its with mutual consent its ok .
But when you start talking about that in public to tear apart someones;s image thats wrong.
Now if its with mutual consent , I dont think partying ways with mutual consent should hold any grudges with anyone.
But yes , Its mutuall and surely it will reduce the divorce rate
And when you don't find commitment in a relationship the lesser are the chances you try to protect it when you start losing interest..
I agree with your words, but as I have asked before. BREAKING-UP and moving away is easier than getting DIVORCED and FORCED TO STAY AWAY??
yes , thats why i say its not culture less , stay in live in for a while and if u find good the partner
Then u can get married
The live in will certainly avoid high percentage of divorces !!
live-in relationships are good only to an extent... When one of the partners gets too attached to the other and wants to live with him/her forever he/she will not accept to break up with you that easily and they become a primary thorne in your arse! It makes the situation more difficult. Our parents don't find it easy to accept. We did not find it acceptable some 5 years ago. It's quite amusing that we adopt all the cultures the westerners have started hating themselves and leave out the good ones. Live-in relationships is definitely not an offence but it makes our nation cultureless.
I dont think i can use culture less as its abig word , But yes divorce is surely a big thing !!!
IMHO, when you choose to live-in it is against Indian culture and it is not healthy. It invites unwanted trouble. It indirectly implies... "If you are not comfortable with this person anymore or got bored with him" move on choose another you are interested in now.. How do you call that? A very disciplined and peaceful life? Any relationship legally uncommitted is trouble... Everything that seems easy is not actually easy ... when you are dealing with a relationship it means you are to get hurt someday...You want to be in a live-in so you don't have to go through divorce i find that to be a very lame excuse!
and! all marriages don't end in divorce..! 95% of live-in ends there.. they don't take it forward.. because they want a girl from their community and the one whom their family respect..!
Live in relationship is not regulated which leads to break up in majority of the cases. I believe there should be some checks and balances, particularly the parents of both boy and girl should be made aware of the relationship. If they dont have any qualms the relationship can be legitimate. The recent break up of Bipasha and John Abraham reveals the extent of break up. Luckily the girl here has taken in the right spirit and moved on. How many gals will be able to survive the break up ?
In west, people don't care much. If one leaves, the other takes it in a right way and searches for another partner. It doesnt happen here
well SC already said that the women can claim for what ever amount is legitimate even if she bnreakls oyt of live in relationship
so I guess parents role is minimized , and anyways , ppl tend to "not inform" parents in case of live ins which is actually right in a sense that we have and respect our privacy !!
"March 24, 2010 witnessed a landmark verdict by the Supreme Court, legalizing live-in relationships in India. The Apex court justified that if two sound-minded adults of the opposite sex seek to live together without getting married the question of a “criminal offence” does not arise at all. It also cited the example of Lord Krishna and Radha’s relationship to substantiate its judgment."
U talk about male ego @umesh !!!
Thats a completely diffrent issue !!
But still guess , its more to do with growing up of socienty that anything else.
This happens everywhere !! waise you got nice exp :P
Why should the parents be involved in the decision of two adults at all?
absolutely Why should the parents be involved in the decision of two adults at all?
yes I agree with diffrent aspects , teh thing is SC has looked into it with more seriousness and now Its leagal
Hmm. I just have one question.
The meaning of MARRIAGE has been totally ruined these days. Not everyone respects their marriage.
People get married, then few months later Get Divorced to get Married again.
When that is the case, why go GET MARRIED at all??.
LIVE-IN relationships are better right?. Live with one, if he bores you, shift your house.
Nothing LEGAL is to be done. People can enjoy SHIFTING.
no no , The SC has already said that the women can claim even in live in relationship
so India is quite serious about it !!!
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