need advice with love!!
hey all mature people i need an urgent advice!!
i am a merit student and am gettting a good college outside but my bf says ki agar u want to go out of the city then break up. truth is i love him jz too much n have been togethr for 15months. i love him a lot and love my dream of being an IIM passout! what do i do?? at the same time i have the worst hitler parents at home who keep me i jail and i meet him very less!!! what to do????
Prelude : I might not be mature , I might be correct , I might not be the perfect advice.
The fact of the matter is that true love will never let you stop chasing your dreams , if it does it’s not true. Forget about boyfriends and girl friends , I have seen people who even after getting married go against their cultural walls to support their partners study and achieve heights.
Choosing love or carrier might be a very difficult question , might sound so immature but we all come across situations in life where we have to make a choice. We have to make space for some things. You might go on asking thousand of mature people about this , you might get hundreds of advices but the fact of the matter is we all will give advices and forget about it and will live our lives and carry on with our on situations in life , so i guess the most intelligent and appropriate person about this would only be you and you only .
While falling in love may be easy, staying in love needs two soul mates that understand each other and are selfless in love. Do you have that relationship that makes you feel lucky at the end of the day , I mean do you really feel satisfied , we all fight in relationships but at the end of the day we understand that the person we love always thinks about us and is always there to support us in all we want to achieve in life.
There’s no beating around the bush here, a good career can make for a better life. A better life will give you better opportunities , better life , quality life , if you lover wants you to not achieve that i am afraid .I might sound too rude and too closed about the emotional content or emotional importance. But not only this time , In life you will come across thousands of situations where you will need to be emotionally strong , being emotional fool is the easiest way you can choose.
Let us consider that you have gone for your boy friend , that too against your Punjabi cultures and all , Would you ever forgive yourself for letting go of a career opportunity? Most lovers who choose love over career end up remorseful and regret their decision the very next time they have a fight or argument with their lover. I must tell you every next time you will fight with your lover you might end up saying I left ABC carrier for you and you are treating me like this, Mind you will be 100% wrong in saying this BUT you will say this because at the end of the day we are all humans.
Dear Girl Try respecting your decision , we all have to take decisions in life which might look dodgy in the start but in the long run they help to lead a better life. And is this promotion or career move a once in a lifetime opportunity , yes my dear it is , after marriage I don’t think you can go end up doing any great to your carrier , it’s not that you can’t but trust me you won’t , If you’ve decided to focus on your career, then don’t look back and ponder over your lost love. It’s a decision you’ve taken, and you have learn to give up on love and move on.
I won’t end up saying philosophical things and take no sides and be at the safe end , But i will take the side of your carrier and advise you to take the step ahead. Break up is a big word , it’s not easy but you must understand the easiness of life .Well I would have easily played safe and told you to take your own decision which you still should but I must take a stand for myself and I had to tell you this.
This thread might end up leaving you more confused with philosophically and publically and politically correct answers , but at the end of the day I would say go for your carrier I mean how many of us get the opportunity to go ahead for higher studies in reputed colleges and on the parents part I guess it should be easy for you to make them understand , because if you promise to be in your limits and talk about it frankly to your parents no parent will stop. tell them what you want to be and you won’t ever cross your limits , your parents will support you .
I can go on and write till eternity about this but at the end think for yourself , your life. My Dear Best of luck !!!
I might not be the best person to answer this.
I might be too rude, But putting in simple words... If he is a true lover, he shouldn't have mind you going to chase your dreams.
Break up with him, become an IIM grad then nothing is stopping you to do whatever you want with your life. What are you? Around your teenage? That's most likely infatuation. As with all humans, the first one is usually the toughest at first. Besides, assuming you both love eachother, why is he making you take the tough decision? That means he wants you for selfish reasons. You live only once. Its not everyday you get a shot to be in IIM. If he's not supportive of you then he's obviously not looking out for you.