New IndiVine Contest: YES or NO to Pre-Martial Sex

Sushmita
Sushmita
from Delhi
3 years ago

A new contest has been launched. 

Details:

https://www.indiblogger.in/topic.php?topic=130

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A topic thats gonna generate heated debate... lets see how it goes.. Interesting!!

SloWord
SloWord
from the Tundra
3 years ago

Yes.

Ya.. Its indeed gonna be a fun

HR
HR
from Bangalore
3 years ago

He hee heee :) , I don't know who will get angry Cool.

Sammya Brata
Sammya Brata
from Kolkata
3 years ago

HAHA! This topic is straight out of a Roadies interview form :D

Louveee it! :)

CyberKID
CyberKID
from India
3 years ago

But what's the point discussing this for selling a book? And then we have a number of minor members as well. I'm not sure how and why did the IB team approve such a contest in the first place.

And no, I'm not against discussing, or do not imply either a yes or no for the topic. I'm just concerned that this sort of a public forum has a lot of members who are minors, and as far as I know, IB doesn't have an age limit in place to approve only people with a certain age or higher.

Fairy Princess
from Delhi
3 years ago

I don't know. I'm still rofling over the topic Laughing

Bushra M
from Bangalore
3 years ago

I know... I am thinking on the same lines too! O_o

Ankita S
from Faridabad, Haryana
3 years ago

I agree

Arvind Passey
from Delhi
3 years ago

'member'? ha! ha!

But seriously, it is the minor 'members' who need to have a clearer concept.

Preeti Chauhan
from Delhi
3 years ago

Agree minors may be members, but all are entitled to an opinion . I would rather love to read what our minors have to say about it .

 

Agree with you Cyberkid... This shouldn't be approved.
Gaurab
Gaurab
from New Delhi
3 years ago

What's the point of asking this question ? We all know what the book will be about and what answer the author and the judges are looking for.

What will be the point of telling people to write something when you already have a point of view about it. So, whatever a person writes...howsoever good it is...it will not qualify to win as it will be against the book ? 

I would definitely like to have a clarity on this. 

Arvind Passey
from Delhi
3 years ago

Really? What sort of answers is the author looking for? Are the judges going to read the posts with some pre-conceived notion?

I am a bit sceptical about this conclusion.

Ranjith
from hyderabad
3 years ago

Arvind I think this contest is similar to those contests where only women win. Tongue out Here, only those who support the topic might win. (I might be wrong Foot in mouth)

Snazzyawi
Snazzyawi
from Mumbai
3 years ago

Very simple mouth  publicity & Social Media outreach with help of bloggers ....Guys in my point of view "Topic is correct " ,Unless & untill it have any adverse impact on minors .....In India people do such things ,but don't want to discuss their point of view ,This contest is giving an opportunity to everyone to share PROS & CONS of  

Pre-Marital Sex....As well their experience's !!!

I agree with Snazzyawi.. and moreover, it can be an eye opener for many minors who seek adventure in pre-marital sex.. 

Ekta Khetan
Ekta Khetan
from Mumbai
3 years ago

Well the "minors" discuss more birds and bees than what major does. So it cannot be labelled as "inappropriate" but could be a good reference point for them to discuss and express openly. One word- write responsibly. Laughing

Nandini Deka
from Bombay
3 years ago

One word- write responsibly

 

 

that became two word

Great contest but I'm assuming a lot of entries would be boring, or something we have already read

TF Carthick
from Bangalore
3 years ago

Yeah - the usual individual freedom, tyranny of society and relegion yada yada.

One thing for sure is that I'm not writing for this contest. Not because the I don't like the prizes, but just because one way or the other, we are judging other people for their actions, which I don't want to do.

Nandini Deka
from Bombay
3 years ago

what about courts??? shud they be done away too..as they judge people for their actionsTongue out

They are in a position to do so. So, they do it. They judge only the legal aspects of the action, not the morality behind them.

Arvind Passey
from Delhi
3 years ago

Come on... no blog post ever 'judges' anyone. I mean, whatever a writer writes is a part of his/her sensibilities and priorities at that point of time and must be read and accepted as an opinion. 

I won't be participating in promotion of a "Book" ... Nor I have to place my views..

The only question I have is ..

"Do this kind of topics, deserve to be here ?

Sushmita
Sushmita
from Delhi
3 years ago

This topic is too subjective to judge if this should be a part of IB. We have seen a lot of posts on Virginity and Live-in relationships. I don' t know how is this different. Like every time, they are asking for a personal opinion. Morality shouldn't be a topic of discussion. As I said, this one is pretty subjective. It is better everyone respects everyone rather than starting a heated argument. Pre marital sex is a personal choice after all. 

SloWord
from the Tundra
3 years ago

Sex is NOT about morals anyway. It is a genetic urge. I agree that personal morals should remain personal.

My point is if there is NOTHING you can do about it, why bother discussing it? I'd rather spend my energy teaching kids to be safe, in showing them the risks. Education. Not the religious dogma and crap about "sanskar", but real, down to earth advice.

It is NOT a cultural thing as everyone seems to think.

vivek dwivedi
vivek dwivedi
from delhi
3 years ago

I think this topic is good because in my view it create a contrast between the Indian culture and the western culture . and before writing for this topic you  have to collect the information for both of them and after you get the knowledge, you don't have to discuss and you decide it yourself.( I m not going to write for this)

Fairy Princess
Fairy Princess
from Delhi
3 years ago

LOL...all this discussion about Indian culture and Western culture is sooooooooooooooo ...... (to be honest I can't even find a word for it)

Before passing any judgements, let's know few facts:

  1. According to Christianity, pre-marital sex is frowned upon.
  2. Western culture is majorly Christian.
  3. Regular churchgoers do not favor pre-marital sex.
  4. Religious Christians are against abortion (from there comes the birth of U.S.' Republic Political Party)
  5. Every religion - including Christianity, Hinduism and Islam - is against pre-marital sex.
  6. Rebels and hypocrites are everywhere, irrespective or caste, creed, religion, geographical location....whatsoever.
  7. Only the level of hypocrisy changes according to culture.
  8. Parents and children will discuss sex issues depending on their culture, comfort and relationship between them.
  9. Nobody wants to prove they are 'cool' by advocating or opposing such trivial issues.

Thank You. I won't entertain any stupid debate points. I'd rather shut up in the company of stupid frogs who haven't thought outside of their residing wells. Once again, thank you.

Western Culture (or at least our perception of it)  and Christianity are vastly different. When we are talking about Western Culture it is understood to be Western Pop Culture which is propogated by Hollywood, Sitcoms and the works.

Fairy Princess
from Delhi
3 years ago

That's the thing. We aren't understanding the proper culture before making any statements. If all the Americans had views similiar of our perception, they wouldn't have Republican party at all. The existence of Republican party shows that there's a culture wherein pre-marital sex, abortion and things like that aren't acceptable. Doesn't it? Otherwise there would be only Democratic party. Their Republican party is similar to our Bajrang Dal and Shiva Sena and the likes.

Am I making sense?

No. I don't know about those parties Undecided

Fairy Princess
from Delhi
3 years ago

Laughing

But does the logic make sense?

PS: You don't know which party Sarah Palin belonged to? SurprisedTongue outSealed

Nandini Deka
from Bombay
3 years ago

indian culture is quite colourful enuff...no need to go western...just go kajuraho and read kamasutra

SloWord
from the Tundra
3 years ago

Yet - pre and extra marital sex happens all the time. I don't know why this debate even exists. The fact is there is NOTHING you can do about it. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. It has existed for generations in ALL cultures and will continue to exist as long as humans retain the primal urge to procreate. Genetics!

I do not agree that "When we are talking about Western Culture it is understood to be Western Pop Culture which is propogated by Hollywood, Sitcoms and the works."

There are lots of misconceptions about "western culture" from people who've never left India.  Firstly, there is no "Wester" culture. The North Americans are very different from the Europeans for one. Even amongst North Americans, Canucks, Yanks and Mexicans have different "cultures".....

@Ajesh, You contradicted my statement, but in a way, we both are saying the same things. For better articulation, I give it to you

Are yar post topic acha hai.. aur sense bhi banata h.. kyoki dhoom3 writer team me 6 writers the.. aur ye fir bhi koi sense tha to fir ye article to kafi acha h Tongue out

Its like this, whether bajrang dal or Shiva sena, they just talk facts and the fact is.. we have been taught some "sanskaar" which go against the pre-marital sex thing. However, its totally ones prerogative to write about it or not..

As far as the topic is concerned , it can be a great platform to put forth our viewpoint and this is not about judging an individual here, but a generic topic targeting the mindset of the people who blindly follow the western culture and see nothing wrong in this.

SloWord
SloWord
from the Tundra
3 years ago

Disagree - pre-marital sex existed 30 years ago too. Know that for a fact. Absolute fact. It has always existed and will continue to exist. To legislate against it, especially on the basis of any 'sanskari' logic is silly and untenable.

Human nature is human nature. How the hell do you control it? By putting chastity belts on unmarried peopl? Stoning them to death? Faugh!

This is a stupid topic, I am afraid.

Fairy Princess
from Delhi
3 years ago

I second you.

Arvind Passey
from Delhi
3 years ago

Well... well... well... you talk of 30 years as if it were 30,000 years! :)Pre-marital sex has been there throughout. It is society's perceptions and acceptances that change.

...and, I'm sure no topic is 'stupid'.  

SloWord
from the Tundra
3 years ago

Arvind - I use 30 because I can name names that far back. As I mentioned elsewhere, it has always existed and is part of genetics. 2 Sentences after the one you quoted I say exactly that

"It has always existed and will continue to exist."

No - some topics ARE stupid. They may be well meaning but those who are against pre-marital sex are not thinking about the consquences of their stand. That is my point. Keep religion and politics out of people's sex lives.

Yes, Societal pressures and acceptance will change and evolve and we must do the right thing to help it evolve in the right direction and not take it backwards into the medieval age. Check out how the Scandinavians have dealt with it. Compare it with the Yanks.

People who talk of "Indian" culture are smoking something from a pipe I'd like to get a hold of. Is there such a thing as "Indian" culture? Would you say the perceptions in the north are shared by those in the south, east or west? As I mentioned "Western" culture is not some one homologous thing. It varies from Europe to North America and even within regions within those vast areas. So let's not compare "Indian" culture with "Western" culture. Please.

Nandini Deka
from Bombay
3 years ago

i didnt want to get into this...but just as you wont like those against pre-marital imposing their thoughts on others...same goes for those for pre-marital ...dont you think? eg you dont want others to impose their culture watever etc etc opinion on you...but you want to impose yours on them?

SloWord
from the Tundra
3 years ago
I am not imposing any culture on anyone. I'm saying people should think for themselves and not follow any old dogma they've been fed. Do some research an then make up your minds. I'm saying sex is a genetic thing. You cannot impose legislation or social pressure, because neither of those will make it go away.
Nandini Deka
from Bombay
3 years ago

exactly...you cant tell others what to follow or not...if someone wants to follow some dogma its their wish and you shouldnt have any problem with what they follow right? as you say people should think for themselves...so you should let them do the thinking for themselves rather than say dont follow old dogma or watever...right?

Ranjith
from hyderabad
3 years ago

People should also be allowed not to think. Laughing Too much thinking is bad for health. Cool


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